I have this friend. She’s beautiful, confident, smart, and creative. We’ll call her Sadie. A month back, I was at Sadie’s house for a girl’s night when she started recounting some stories of great dating adventures. I asked her where she was meeting all these people and her answer shocked me. Online.
Online? Really? I thought back to my two online dating experiences. One was a guy from Myspace when I first moved back to Seattle from Boston. The guy seemed cool. We had e-mailed a bit and decided to meet up at a bar by his house. I had half of one drink, and the next thing I remember is breaking into a restaurant to use the phone, and one of my best friends coming to pick me up underneath the freeway.
The next time I tried online dating (which, it probably goes without saying was several years later) was a few weeks after my most long-term relationship. I convinced myself it was good to get out and prove to myself that there weren’t just other fish in the sea, but there were better ones.
This time there was no drinking involved, and I decided to place one hundred percent emphasis on conversation. After a two hour conversation that was really more of this man’s monologue about why encouraging imagination in children is pointless, and why creativity was a dying fad, I made the decision that online dating was never going to make a re-appearance in my life.
But then, here was Sadie. Being funny, and charming, and engaging me with the one thing it’s hard for me to resist—a great story.
I thought, well, what if I were to do this over and shift my expectations. What if I don’t go into this looking to meet someone that could potentially be in my life forever? What if I go into this saying, “Won’t this make a great story?”
Sadie, being my only single girl friend in town, convinced me to set up a profile on this dating site. I told her I would only do it on the condition that my first date out she accompany me with someone she meets on the site. An online double date!
What do you guys think about online dating?
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